Mom Fed Up? Or, Not Fed?
Written by Rita
I don't know what to do. I am totally losing it. My son argues about everything, whether it be with me,my daughter or his dad. He doesn't want to do what I tell him to do. If it isn't his he doesn't want to pick it up. He gets extremely upset when his sister takes something he wants or example "he made a toy out of his legos and later she picked it up and threw it down and broke it, she didn't know she is only 2 yrs. old. Well he got extremely upset and started crying and was mad with her. He is 5 and will be 6 in a couple of weeks. She will be 3 next week.Just now I asked him to get to sandwich bags so I can put some marshmellows in there for him and his sister. He was getting upset because there is only one. He also can be very hyper active and makes a lot of noises just to be doing it. He talks very loud. We tell him to speak with a softer voice but it doesn't help. I try so hard to be calm but I am having such a hard time doing that.
On top of that I am bipolar so I am also emotional and at times it's very hard to control my temper. I know some of the emotional behavior he may have gotten from me but then again he could be just like me. What to do!!! We are taking him to the dr. We may have him checked for ADHD and also have the therpist talk with him. I really do feel that there is something upsetting him but he doesn't know how to express himself. I also know that he is very jealous of his sister. He feels we love her more than him.
I have told him several times that I love him just as much as her. I think he may be somewhat upset with his dad. My husband is very lovable with our daughter and talks about how pretty she is, how smart, just compliments. James listens to these things. I have told my husband over and over you have to watch that. James is watching and he feels less loved. I can't seem to get thru to the husband. Others that I know has seen it but they haven't told him that. With it coming from me it doesn't believe me. I just don't know what to do. Please help in any way you can. Thanks for reading.
Signed: am 37 and married to fairly good man. I won't say he's perfect because all men make mistakes but he doesn't cheat,go to bars, ect. He comes home like a family man should do. We have two beautiful children. I am a SAHM and I also work part-time after my husband gets home from work.
Consider exhausting all of the nutritional approaches to emotional havoc around the house before visiting an allopath. Mainstream medicine can sometimes be quick to prescribe Ritalin, Prozac and other pharmaceuticals before evaluating the depth of nutrition as well as the emotional backstory to everyone's behavior in the family system of communication.
For instance, by not acknowledging your request that he not praise your daughter so much in front of your son, thereby aggravating an already difficult situation, he may be in a passive aggressive behavior pattern that is beneath his conscious awareness. This pattern may be a dysfunctional imprint inherited from his family or it may be tied to issues between you two.
But, before doing BigPharm, try blue green algae. I had a terrible case of depression in my 20's until I succumbed to a nutritionist's prodding that I try blue green algae. I hit the ceiling with energy and have not experienced negative ideation over 30 years since making that connection. I am a blood type A, non-secretor and deep nutrition is essential for maintaining emotional balance or my blood type. Algae is an adaptogen. If you are hyper, you calm. If lethargic, you become activated.
Another area that warrants exploration is aligning your family's nutritional intake with foods that are blood type compatible. You can avoid building lectins on your immune system's receptor sites if you eat according to your blood type. As well, each blood type has a nutritional decoy that can prevent the build up of lectins as well as scrub accumulated agglutinins off of receptor sites so the immune system can address other issues such as preventing allergic reactions, premature wrinkling, weight gain, high cholesterol, etc.
As well, you may want to evaluate whether there are any environmental toxins that may be in the house or that may have been exposed to your family members at some point in the past. An example are the heavy metals i.e. the mercury in dental amalagams that can leach into and get trapped by the body's fatty tissues then stunt neuronal growth in the brain. Just imagine the long term consequences of that phenomena... Alzheimers among other issues, learning disabilities, motor function disorders, mental illness, etx.
Oh there's so much more. In conjunction with increasing the depth of nutrition in your household, review the options I describe at the site to pursue simple measures to diagnose then detox chemical, microbial and emotional burdens that may be underlying causes to irritable, angry behavior.
The study of detoxing the body is called homotoxicology. Toxic behaviors can and most times do have multiple sources of causation; but, it's wise to take one step at a time and beware of the instant gratification that pharmaceuticals offer. The long term consequences are inevitable side effects and, if you're lucky enough to recognize the need for detox, it's just a another layer of work that has to be addressed.